Choosing a Home Carer for a Loved One with Alzheimer’s in the UK: A Practical Guide for Families
by
Romina Sarcletti
Alzheimer’s is a progressive and life-altering condition, not only for those diagnosed but also for the families who love and support them. As the disease advances, many families in the UK consider professional help to maintain their loved one’s quality of life at home — where routines are familiar and comforting.
But choosing a home carer for someone with Alzheimer’s is a deeply personal and often overwhelming decision. This guide walks you through key steps to help you make the right choice with confidence and compassion.
1. Understand Your Loved One’s Care Needs
Before you begin the search, take time to assess your loved one’s day-to-day needs. This helps determine the type of carer required.
Ask yourself:
- Do they need help with personal care (washing, dressing, toileting)?
- Are they wandering, confused, or anxious, especially at night?
- Do they require support with medications or meals?
- Is companionship or emotional support a key part of their wellbeing?
Keep a diary for a few days to identify patterns and routines. This will be useful when discussing care plans with providers or carers.
2. Choose Between Hiring Privately or Through an Agency
In the UK, there are two main ways to arrange a home carer:
Through a Care Agency
- Agencies manage recruitment, background checks, training, and sickness cover.
- Many agencies are regulated by the Care Quality Commission (CQC) in England (or equivalent bodies in Scotland, Wales, and Northern Ireland).
- This is often the simplest and safest option, though it may cost more.
Hiring a Private Carer
- You or your loved one directly employ a carer (also known as a Personal Assistant).
- You’ll need to handle contracts, payroll, insurance, and cover for holidays or illness.
- Offers more flexibility and continuity, but with greater responsibility.
If you choose this route, Skills for Care and Alzheimer’s Society offer guidance on employing a carer privately.
3. Look for Dementia-Specific Experience and Training
Not all carers are trained to support people with dementia. When reviewing agencies or interviewing carers, ask:
- Do you have experience supporting people with Alzheimer’s?
- Have you completed dementia care training?
- How do you respond to confusion, aggression, or wandering?
- Can you create or maintain consistent routines?
A good Alzheimer’s carer is patient, calm, observant, and can communicate clearly even when verbal skills decline.
4. Check References and Regulatory Standards
If using an agency, check their rating on the CQC website: https://www.cqc.org.uk
If hiring independently, ask for:
- Two or more references, ideally from dementia care clients
- An enhanced DBS check (Disclosure and Barring Service)
- Evidence of insurance, especially if they’ll be handling medication or finances
Ask your local council’s adult social care team for help with background checks if needed.
5. Arrange a Trial Period
A trial period (a few hours or days) gives you and your loved one a chance to see how the carer fits:
- Are they respectful and reassuring?
- Does your loved one seem comfortable and calm around them?
- Are they attentive to hygiene, safety, and emotional cues?
Some agencies offer “introductory” shifts or shadowing opportunities to ease the transition.
6. Know What Help is Available Financially
Alzheimer’s care can be costly, but there is support in the UK:
- Attendance Allowance (for over-65s with care needs)
- Carer’s Allowance (if you care for someone 35+ hours a week)
- Direct Payments (if your council assesses you as needing care)
- Some families may qualify for help with costs through Continuing Healthcare (NHS-funded)
Contact your local council’s adult social services to request a needs assessment. They will guide you on available funding and options.
7. Stay Involved and Communicate Regularly
Even with a trusted carer in place, stay engaged. Keep communication open and check in regularly. Some families keep a simple care diary for updates on meals, mood, activities, and medication.
You can also ask the agency or carer for regular reviews to adjust care as your loved one’s needs evolve.
Final Thoughts
Finding the right home carer for someone with Alzheimer’s isn’t just about ticking boxes — it’s about finding someone who understands the person behind the diagnosis. The right carer can provide routine, reassurance, and relief not just to your loved one, but to you as a family carer too.
Take your time, ask for help, and don’t hesitate to reach out to support organisations like the Alzheimer’s Society, who offer guidance and helplines to walk with you every step of the way.
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